ANGER ANXIETY AND ANGUISH

ADOLESCENTS AND CRITICISM

It is too difficult for the children and adolescents to digest negative comments and criticisms.A growing child needs care and affection from their parents and teachers;if it is denied to them they feel hurt.The are badly wounded in their heart.They may not show it outside like adults;they keep it suppressed in their subconscious mind.They exhibit their emotions outside, when they are utterly disturbed and frustrated by their close relatives, mainly their parents.But parents abuse them when they need love and affection. They are ill treated when they expect appreciation from their parents,teachers,care takers and close relatives.

The anger and the anguish these children and adolescents express unconsciously are vividly expressed by DR.HABIBULLAH in his beautiful poem.

When these children are allowed to speak naturally it is too difficult to answer them; just listen to their heart beats....

did you not toture me, when

i needed your tender love.

did you not torment me, when

i harbour for your kindness.

did you not degrade me, when

i longed for your appraisal.

did you not desert me, when

i deserved a praise.

did you not turn out to be

an intimate enemy, when

i expect your friendliness.

how could you victimise

the soul of your own son.

how could you eat

the flesh of your own blood.