AN EMOTIONALLY DISTURBED TEENAGER

QUESTION

My son is always tired,feel weak and confused.My family doctor tells me that my son is depressed.I am afraid and this makes me restless.I attended your workshop on 'teenage agonies and behaviour disorders' session for parents recently.Please tell me how can I know that my son is emotionally disturbed.

ANSWER

An emotionally disturbed child easily upsets by bad moods,thinks inferior,low ,unworthy,prone to jealousy,envy,indulge in violence,burst into fits and tears,jumps into fights and arguments,overreacts to irritation and frustration,violates rules and regulations,easily succumbs to bad habits,disobey parents and teachers,susceptible to rage and anger,feels low confidence and self esteem,more irritable,irresponsible,inactive and indifferent.These are common emotional disturbances any one can easily observe in children.Mothers are natural psychologists.

As a sensitve mother you can easily read these emotions written on the face of your child.You can attend my 'face reading' classes to learn this art.

MY MOTHER MAKES MY LIFE MISERABLE

QUESTION

I am eighteen years old.I am a bright student in studies.My father died two years back.I am living with my mother.My mother got some good contact in the cinema field.She wants me to act in some television seriels.Because of her compulsion I am doing some modelling works also.I earn good money from this profession.I have no interest in this field.I hate this acting profession.I want to continue my studies.My teachers are supporting me.My mother is totally against this.She beats me at times,I hate her for this.She is keeping all the money.she is not bothered about me .Her only interest is making more money.My life is miserable;my mother makes my life more miserable.Please advise me.

ANSWER

I am getting questions of this kind from number of teenage girls.The modern day trend reflects in their life style and madness for making easy money devastates the morale of the society.You are not an exception to it.It is unfortunate that your own mother exploits you for her own selfishness.Studying big courses in colleges will not make you very rich.Acting and modelling may fetch you a good money.It is a short cut way to make a cheap fame also.If you have no passion for acting you can simply follow your own concience.Consult some educated elderly men and women relatives in your family and ask them to advise your mother in this regard.As a girl it is too difficult for you to go against your mother's wishes.Tell your mother your difficulties that you face in your present profession.There is a possibility that she may change her mind soon. Do not take any hasty decisions;do not show your hatred towards your mother openly.Hope for the best;always be confident,after all she is your own mother.In your tender age it is not possible for you to live without your mother.

IS IT POSSIBLE FOR A LOVING MOTHER TO KILL HER TEENAGE SON

YOU MAY SHED TEARS IF YOU HAVE A GOOD HEART
Read the touching story....and discuss

Tom was a teenager.He was met with an accident.After the accident his brain got damaged.His condition becomes miserable and  he almost lived  in a pathetic  vegetative state.His mother Frances Inglis was a loving mother and also a nurse.She knows that there is  no possibility for her son's recovery.Her son's pain and suffering devasted her heart and mind.Her agony was intolerable.She cried a lot but it never reduced her pain and suffering.She became hopeless ,restless and helpless.Her love for him was uncontrollable and she was not prepared to continue this horrible state to prolong.She was not ready to give a life of hell to her loving son.His condition was getting  worse day after day.She took a bold decision to alleviate the suffering of her son.She administered the lethal dose of poison,and killed him with a heart, full of love.The laws ban mercy killing.She was offered a life imprisonment.The mother is not bothered about the judgement.She is happy that she has relieved the agony,pain and suffering of her loving son. WOULD SHE BE BLESSED BY HER LORD FOR HER MERCIFUL ACT.

IN THE SCHOOL BIG BAD BOYS TRIED TO UNDRESS ME..

QUESTION

My school is a top school in the city.When my father got a transfer,he used his influence to secure a seat for me in the school.As a new comer, I experienced a lot of problems from a group of senior students.I was teased, insulted and nagged.One day a group of seniors came to my room and tried to remove my clothes and they asked me to give a pose without dress.Luckily the warden came and I was saved.I am afraid to complain it to the teacher because of their vulgar threats.I have attended your emotional management programme recently.Please help me. I am depressed and totally confused.

ANSWER

Teasing of this kind is very common in schools and colleges, eventhough there are stringent laws to punish the law breakers. Stripping of one's dress in front of others is not an insult but humiliation.As a new student, to accomodate to these sorts of insults takes some more time.You need more courage to handle this challenge.Make efforts to make some good and brave students as your friends.Tackle the issue boldly.Send a clear message to your enemies that you are not a person to be humiliated easily.As far as possible try to tackle it with your new friends.If not possible tell it to to your parents and bring the matter to the notice of school authorities.At the same time be watchful and be little bit alert.With your good behaviour you can attract them and make them as your friends.

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

A QUESTION FROM A TEENAGE STUDENT

Sir,

I have attended the training programme you have conducted in our school recently for students.

My parents are doctors, working in a government hospital.I am the only child of my parents. I am sixteen years old.Eventhough I study in a good school,I find it difficult to concentrate in my studies.I am a bit below average in exams.Parents and my teachers curse me always.I find it miserable to live in my house.I have more interest in music and dance programmes.I have more interest in keyboard.I joined a music group recently.This makes my parents more angry with me.They want me to become a doctor like them.I am confused,it is too difficul for me to study medicine and I am not prepared for it.Please help me.

ANSWER

I understand your problem.As a doctor, like your parents I can advise you to prepare yourself

to pursue a course in medicine.It needs a lot of preparation from your side.Securing high grades in final examintion is very important to get admission in a good medical college.You say that you are below average student and have more interest in music and dance.If you have real interest in music and you think that you have real talent in music you should prove this atleast to your parents and get their whole hearted support.After all, music is also a good profession like medicine.You should understand that academic intelligence has nothing to do with success in life.The ability to motivate onself,the ability to face difficulties in life,to control impulses,to control your moods and to regulate your emotions are more important to succeed in life.A high IQ is no gaurentee of wealth,power,fame or happiness in life.You are very young but your question is very intelligent.Try to convince your parents.Best of luck.

TEENAGE BEHAVIOUR

Negative emotions alters the physiology and psychology of the teenager.Depression sabotages their self image and esteem.It leads to behavioural problems and personality disorders in young children and adolescents.These children prefer to be alone.They feel tired, weak and more exhausted.They look miserable and pathetic.

They are not loved by anybody,even by their own parents.This makes them sad.They are

unhappy with their peers and environment.They become lazy and day dream a lot.They perform poorly in schools and find difficulties in concentration.These children are more aggressive and violent in their behaviour.They learn bad habits.They acquire special skills in telling lies.They cheat their friends and family members.The argue and fight a lot.They destroy other's articles,disobey their parents,argue with school teachers and fight with their fellow students.They tease others,hurt other's feelings,becoming emotional, turning very arrogant, becoming a menace to the society.

They are always angry with their parents for their negative criticism.They fall prey to drugs and alcohol.This makes them more depressed. They cry a lot in silence and burst into tears very often.Nurturing bad and negative emotions and violent behaviour for a long time leads them to severe illnesses and nervous breakdown.

TEENAGE FEELINGS

Adolescents with emotional stress and feelings cannot listen without distortion.They cannot respond with clear headedness.When their feelings are intense,their thoughts are confused.When feelings are hurt,small issues become threats.Stress disables their stability.They can't undrstand or read other's feelings.They neither impress or attract others.

Worry,fear,anger and anxiety have a damaging effect on their mental performance.They experience tension,uneasiness,headaches,body pain,sleeplessness and a host of emotional turbulance that leads to body illness leading to grave diseases.
anxiety undermines intellectual performance
fear sabotages confidence
worry interferes with clear thinking
sadness disrupts mental clarity
mental agony alters memory
bad moods disrupts and disturbs relationship
anger ends in violence
guilt lowers self esteem
jealousy leads to awkward criticism
doubt destroys trust.

TEENAGE THOUGHTS

Thougts are like clouds in the sky.A bad thought comes and stays in the mind and moves after sometime.At times the bad thoughts stay longer in the mind.When it stays longer it disturbs the young mind.
Thiughts of sadness,worry,fear and anger move into the mind and pass out with the passage of time.When these thoughts persist for a longer time,it leads to anxiety,rage fear and depression.Unlike sadness anger is more damaging.
A stimulus for anger is the thought of being molested,punished,the thought of being treated unjustly,rudely,the thoght of being insulted or neglected.Thoughts of worry confuses the mind.The mind does'nt know what went wrong and experiencing negative moods before they develop.These children loose interest in studies.
They feel tired,fatigued and exhausted.They do'nt learn anything from school.Feling of confidence,zeal and enthusiasm leaves out of the mind when worry and sadness enters into it.

TEENAGE MIND

Teenage mind is not rational,it is emotional.The mind is immature and irrational.When the child is emotional the thinking mind is stopped and gets confused.Emotional outbursts leads to violent behaviour.

Young children and adolescents almost learn all their basic emotions straight from their parents.The mind of the young is very weak and fragile.Family life is the first school for emotional learning.Students of depressed mothers generally reflect the bad feelings of their mothers, more vividly on their faces.They display sadness,unhappiness,anger and fear with intensity and colour.
A student's success in life depends to a great extent on the emotional traits of their parernts.Parental neglect is more dangerous than physical abuse.
Neglected youngsters are anxious,fearful,inattentive,careless,aggressive and withdrawn.Bad emotions weaken their mind.Their thinking and learning skills are altered and their concentration gets diminished.Continuous strain and stress impair their learning centers,they become shy,sensitive to criticisms and indulge in violence and engage in petty crimes.

TEENAGE AND BAD MOODS

Emotional stress and bad moods alters the present day teenager's life style,

shatters his self image, tatters his self esteem and lowers his mental and academic performance.
The most common cause of fear and failure among young adults are disturbance and confusion in their minds.Signs and symptoms of anxiety and depression affects almost every teenager.Depression in girls increases at the time of puberty.Children of
depressed mothers very often display their mother's moods in their faces.The socially
incompetent children are dificult to handle by ordinary teachers.These tenagers do not understand lessons.They neither read nor express their emotions.

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SUFI MYSTICISM

Sufi mysticism is not a religion. It is not a philosophy. It is neither Psychology nor occultism.
It is a combination of all these sciences. In essense it is a science; a science of esotericism.
A sufi mystic is one who is a master of himself; mastery over his own body and mind. He is
not a man of knowledge, but a man of wisdom. He is the one who sees a right thing in a wrong
thing and a wrong thing in a right thing. He is a metaphysician, an alchemist, a master mind- healer and a true psychologist. He is always at ease with his disease as disease has no power over him and death finds it difficult to win him over as he prefers to die before his death. He is a real threat to 'death and disease'.His philosophy is simple.

He says,
'Do as others do, live as others live, think as others think, but feel as you yourself feel and analyse life as your soul guides you'
A sufi sees without eyes; he sees further than one sees and he sees that which the eyes cannot
see. He hears without ears; he hears more keenly than one hears and he hears that which the ear cannot hear. It is seeing even without eyes and hearing even without ears. His seing is claivoyance and his hearing is clairaudience. To him life is meditation and meditation is life. He
enjoys action and he enjoys repose. He experiences both, as action is needed in life just as repose
is needed. He rejuvenates his body in action and his mind in repose.
He transmutes his repose into concentration, concentration into contemplation and contemplation into meditation and meditation to inner realisation. In this stage his two eyes become one and in becoming one his eye obtain such power that, it pierces all things and knows
all things.It is for this knowledge that the inner eye or the third eye opens. In this abysmal bliss he acquire strength, illumination, happiness and pease.