TV WATCHING AND LOW GRADES

Question: my child is not studying well. Always gets low grades and feels inferior. please help me how to handle the problem of my child?

Answer: It seems your child is not motivated rightly. You should know that you have certain responsibilities as for as your child's academic performance is concerned.

Question: Please tell me, what shall I do in order to rectify my child's problems?

Answer: First of all, you have to find out what distracts you child's studies.How is your home environment?

Question: Home environment is good. But I have some interest in seeing movies and seriel programmes in the television. Would it affect my child's concentration in studies?

Answer: Defenitely. Your child's attention will be diverted when you watch the tv.programmes. It is not possible to ask the child to study when the mother is watching the TV.

Question: young mothers like me won't understand the small mistakes like this. The most important thing is in nuclear families like ours, there is none to guide us also.

Answer: I am happy that you understand the child's problem very well. Always help your child to concentrate on his studies. It is your responsibility to encourage and guide your child in the right direction.

Question: my two year old child is also watching television. Is it harmful to the child?

Answer: defenitely. It is more harmful. Don't allow your two year old child to watch television frequently.

video

CHILDREN - WHY THEY GET TIRED

Question: when my child returns home from school, looks very tired, fatigued and very much exhausted. I am very much afraid. Is it normal?

Answer: There is nothing to worry about. Attending shool activities continuously make a child got tired easily. If the is ill or tired all the time he needs attention.

Question: yes doctor, he is tired all the time. Not only tired he doesn't eat properly.

Answer: my advise is, take some precautions and be alert with all activities of your child.

Question: you mean to say that, to watch my child's behaviour all the time.

Answer: exactly. When he reaches home from school, watch his behavioural patterns. Watch whether he is dull, lethargic or bored.

Question: He is not playing very well. Feel worried all the time. He finds some difficulty in getting good sleep. I mean he is not sleeping well.

Answer: It needs careful attention. Go along with your child to the school and enqure all about your child's activities from his class teacher. Collect all details.

Question: Okay, doctor. I will do it now, once I gathered the information I will consult you with the details.

Answer: Okay, don't worry. If the teacher says if your child's activities are normal in school there is nothing to worry about. If she tells somthing negative you can contact the paediatrician.

watch the video

just listen to the dialogue carefully.

SHYNESS AND BODY IMAGE

Why children feel shy - is it due to lack of self confidence?

Generally children feel shy because their age and body image tells them that they are small in stature and strength and very inadequate to perform adult roles or works.

My child is 10 years old. Still he feels shy and nervous. Is it natural or abnormal?

At this age it is defenitely a bit abnormal. A ten year old child is a grown up child. When he feels shy,is it in front of you or in front of the strangers?

Not in front of the family members. He feels shy only in front of the strangers. Is it then normal?

Don't worry. Normally children show a bit of shyness in front of strangers. Once they become friendly with them, their shyness goes and they feel comfortable and behave in a confident manner.

Even with my distant relatives my child feels shy, he never opens his mouth in front of them. His father is also a shy- type and a reseved man. Would this trait affect my child also?

It may be due to the parental trait. Children especially male children imitate the style of their father. To them the father is the role-model.They copy most of the behaviors from him only.

I am afraid,will he in future become a shy-type just like his father? Is  there any remedy to correct it?

yes. There is good number of remedies available. Psychological counseling in the form of cognitive psycho-therapy will be very effective.Consult a competent medical personal so that your child's problem can easily be solved.

watch this video

listen carefully to the simple dialogue written by dr.habibullah

SAVE THE CHILDREN AND THE ADOLESCENTS FROM DEPRESSION

How to identify a teenager who is totally depressed?

His face reveals many things. He may feel sad, somtimes cries have decreased pleasure in his day-to-day activities,no desire to work, have sleep disturbances, feels fatigue, exhaustion and lethargy, most of the time thinks and feels that he is worthless.

What will happen if the crisis deepens.

He may feel inadequate, nervous and jittery. He may think that he doesn't measure up for the 'success'. He may find it dificult to update his knowledge and skills. Finally he may withdraw himself from work, friends and family that may put him into lot of mental pressur and trauma. In this atmosphere he may be compelled to lead a restricted life.

What is euphoric mania?

It is also a form of depression - in otherwords an elevated depression or manic depression. In this condition the teenager may feel optimistic, he may think that he possesses more power and energy. He may at times show unrealistically elevated self regard and esteem.

What is the adverse side - effects of this sort of mania?

This sort of mania brews a dangerous combination of bad impulse control and poor judgement result in unnatural or unrealistic grandiosity. A law abiding person may at times become a law breaking person. This person may engage in crimes, rape, abuse, adultery and all sort of anti-social activities.

Would you committ to say that these youngsters are innocent or ignorant of their bad activities?

In most cases some of the most cruel crimes are generally committed by extremely nice and innocent people, who are mostly gentlemanly and virtuous in nature. It is a pity that these crimes are committed by them when they were in a typical manic state.

listen to the dialogue in the video

This dialogue is written by DR.HABIBULLAH

senior consultant paediatrician and adolescent psychologist.   

WHEN THE ANGER EXPLODES

TEENAGE AND ANGER

Children and adolescents are wounded emotionally when they interact with their parents,friends and relatives even in day to day normal conversations. Since they are young and weak they cannot show their anger towards them in a forceful way. Most of the time their anger is suppressed continuously.Their anger may erupt in their behaviour in a subtle way. At times it explodes ferociously. When it explodes these adolescents throw away their long stored temper tantrums towards their opposing and oppressing parents and care takers.

The minute they loose control of their anger it may lead to serious verbal threats, violence and destruction. These children and adolescents may look like timid, quite and fragile, but once the unexpected and uncontrolled outbursts of temper explodes they behave most outrageously at the slightest provocation. It happens suddenly without any warning and wanes without any trace. Once the anger is gone these adolescents look like fools and behave like retarted kids. They are embarassed, ashamed and terrified when their parents or friends are hurt by their bad behaviour. It is human nature to be violent at times, and cannot be considered as a pathology or inherent mental disorder. But violent behaviour is common among substance abusers. It is common among adolescents with mood disordrs. Neurological complications, brain lesions, epilepsy, mania and depression also provoke temper tantrums and violent outbursts in children and adolescents.

How then the children and adolesents are allowed to express their anger in a reasonable and natural way. Anger in fact is an inborn aggressive instinct. Sports and atheletic world allow these youngsters to express their aggressive impulses in a safe and socially acceptable form. Atheletes and sportmen become super performers with varying degree of success in controlling their anger, violence and aggression and channelising it in a positive and creative ways - that shows them as super stars in their sports field.

Explosive outbursts of anger and violent temper tantrums are considered abnormal if it occurs regularly in children and teenagers. It matters concern if it blows out of proportion, out of control and severe - that may result in bullying, destruction, chronic absenteism in school and drug abuse ends in behavioural disorders.

WHEN THE EMOTION LEAKS

CHILDREN AND EMOTIONS

Children in general have a desire to feel happy, but it is not possible all the time. The happiness and peace slips away and in turn takes over by feelings of sadness and gloom. At times they may experience the feeling of fear, shame, worry, anger, disgust, hatred, jealousy and self-hate. In their tender young age, it is difficult for them to tackle the daily pressures of stress they face from their family members especially from their parents. Facing fears, frustrations and iritations make them weak and powerless.

Children and adolescents are considered as play objects by their parents and care takers. This means that kids live on dangerously high levels of stress and experience severe mood changes, this often leads them to mental and emotional break down. These children are at times neglected by their parents for their abnormal bad behaviour. Their self-esteem and respect are shattered and these adolescents find comfort in substance abuse. They find relief through alcohol and street drugs. When the parental relationship is broken these adolescents become the victim of social outcast result in emotional isolation, when connecting with trusted parents is lost. This leads to emotional restlessnes, trigger pain, frustration and intense fear.

Parental neglect and emotional restlessness produce shame in these children. Shame takes away their self-respect and erode their self-esteem, weaken their self-confidence, shaken their self-discipline, shatters their self-determination and leads them to failure and loss of self-control. These children feel uneasiness in their day to day relationship with their care takers especially with their parents that leads to internal and external withdrawl from others.

At the emotional level these adolescents act like kids. They follow their emotional impulses. They feel uneasy, restless and guilty. Their mind is filled with negative feelings like anger, guilt, fear, envy, jealousy, anxiety and hatred. These emotional conflicts lead them towards depression. Thes youngsters find themselves acting and saying things in ways that distance them from the parents and the peers whom they love. They develop their own way of feeling, thinking and acting. It is high time for the parents to understand and study these clues and act out positively to bring their children under their control before it create mental discomfort and emotinal distress that leads them to severe mental handicap and emotional break down.

DAD MOM AND THE CHILD

THE FINAL QUESTION

There are some important questions unanswered.These questions are highly emotional. Children and adolescents harbour these sentimental questions in their minds. These questions are deeply buried in their sub-conscious mind. Parents are not sensitve to it. They think that their children are very much ignorant about their past misdeeds and bad behaviour. They blindly believe that these children would forget the abuses committed on them by their own hands. Every bad incident that happened in their childhood years is vividly recoded in their memory.It is not possible for these children to hide their negative emotions anymore. At the appropriate moment

the accumulated energy will burst open to the surface and the most suppressed sensitive emotions are expelled out with force and vigour.These young children no longer tolerate the bad behaviour inflicted on them by their own perverted parents.They are now more angry and very aggressive towards their care takers and their parents.

Physical traumas can be healed; the emotional traumas can not be endured.It is too difficult to heal the mental wounds.It is also too difficult to answer certain logical questions. My question is, are you ready to answer the following questions, if your child poses these questions straight to your face.It is a great challenge for the modern day parents to answer as these children are very intelligent.

Now read the poem :

DR.HABIBULLAH mixes the true feelings with a tinge of colour and tears of emotions.

i keep your face

i speak your voice

i practise your vice

i play your tricks.

i am not part of you

i am the whole of you.

i am your blood

i am your flesh

i am your bone.

i am the tough and

the rough of you.

my habits are

not mine.

my name is

not my choice.

when i committ

some mistakes

people ask me

your name.

they know me

by your name.

they measure me

by your image.

they judge me

by your reputation.

how strange

people are,

to accuse the parent

for the wrongs

of their child.

can you change

their mind.

INDIVIDUALITY AND PERSONALITY

THE QUESTION OF SUBSTANCE

A child can not be bad all of a sudden. Every child is born pure. It is the parents who make them good or bad. A child is violent because the child witnesses violence in the behaviour of their own parents. When these children grow older, they become bad because their parents are not good in their character. Every child believes that it's behaviour and charecter is shaped by the training they get in their early period of life and that too, from their own parents. Modern parents are in an embrassing situation when their grown up kids put the blame whole heartedly on their parents for their minor and major vices they committ in their daily life.

DR.HABIBULLAH in his poem, discusses an interesting dialogue that happened between the child and the parent.How do you blame your kid when your child ask the right question at the right time.

i am bad - because

you are not good.

i am dishonest - because

you are not honest.

i am violent - because

you don't profess non - violence.

virtue can not be

born out of vice.

darkness is not

the child of light.

it is you

who stripped me

of my individuality

and clothed me

with your personality

and forgotten

your responsibility

and responsible for

my irresponsibility.

there are vaccines

for prevention

of deadly diseases.

is there vaccines

for prevention

of parental bad habits.

BAD PARENTS MANUFACTURE BAD CHILDREN

PARENTS - THE ROLE MODELS

Parents are the real role models for their children.Good and bad habits of the parents are easily learned and stored in their memory.Children invariably follow these inputs for their referal in case, they face any critical situations in their life. When the children misbehave, it is mainly due to the faulty training imposed by the parents in their early days.They are not aware that they are really responsible for incubating the bad character and behaviour in their own children without understanding them emotionally well.These mental taumas inflicted early in life affect their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing.

DR.HABIBULLAH writes about one such incdent in his poem.

as the twig bends

so the tree.

a bad parent

can not bring forth

a good child.

in anger

you can not laugh.

in weep

you can not smile.

it is difficult

to extract

sandal oil

in the fire wood.

dogs can not sing

snakes can not hum

tigers can not bleat

the leopard can't

change it's spots.

you are my mirror

i am your mirror

mirror is always innocent.

it can reflect

what is projected.

i can reflect

only your image.

If the grown up children and adolescents ask this sort of sensitive questions, it may be too difficult for the parents to answer them sensibly.

PARENTS - CHILDREN AND EMOTIONS

PARENTS - THE FIRST TEACHERS

Children learn all fundamental things straight from their parents; because children invariably consider their parents as role models. All activities of the parents are not only watched by their children but vividly recorded in their sub - conscious mind, which later on evoke major psycho - somatic disorder, if parental attitude toward their children happened to be violent in nature. Children's mind is like a clean slate; uncorrupted, tender and more fragile. Bad traumatic events disrupts their mind negatively and result in bad behavioural disorder. When the parents accuse their children for their anti social behaviour they should realise that they are unconsciously responsible for their kid's bad habits.

The mental attitude of one such teenager is described beautifully by DR.HABIBULLAH in his poem. Just meditate on it...

i learned all my

first lessons

from you.

you are my

first teacher.

you are my

grand master.

you are my

great hero.

you are my

super model.

i am your copy

i am your print.

i follow your

foot prints.

no school teaches

love and affection,

no college coaches

kindness and generosity.

honesty and integrity

can not be learned.

truth and faith

can not be purchased.

these human traits

can not be trained

only be experienced.

face to face

from the parents

to their children.

IS NOT DEPRESSION - HEREDITY

AN EMOTIONAL QUESTION

Parents think that children won't ask difficult questions. But their thoughts are different; they may not ask embarassing questions to their parents, but they may think differently in their mind.When they grow older, their older thoughts too become mature and bring forth new dimension in their thinking pattern. Parental attitudes create lot of confusion in their young minds. They realise that their parents were very harsh and cruel towards them in their younger days. It hurts them emotionally in their later period of growth and development when they become adolescents and young adults. DR.HABIBULLAH writes in his poem about the mental attitude of these children and how an angry, young innocent adolescent raises a very critical question towards his own parents, in fact - a difficult question too difficult to answer.

a child's charecter is

moulded by nature and nurture.

nature is heredity,

nurture is environment.

what sort of heredity

you infused in me.

if migraine is heredity

is not mental disorder - heredity.

if heart attack is heredity

is not anger - heredity.

if diabetes is heredity

is not depression - heredity.

if asthma is heredity

is not anxiety - heredity.

it is not that - your blood

become my blood,

your thoughts too.

it is not that - your bones

become my bones,

your feelings too.

it is not that - your flesh

become my flesh,

your character too.

if you are poisoned

in your heart,

i am too poisoned

in my heart.

BETWEEN TEARS AND CRIES

AN INTIMATE DIALOGUE BETWEEN
THE SON AND THE FATHER

Children need attention from their parents in times of crisis and when they meet bad situations in life.They don't get any support morally and emotionally when they face tough problems in their day to day life.This attitude from their parents make them sad and at times make them depressed.

DR.HABIBULLAH picturises in his beautiful poem one such intimate dialogue that happened between the father and the son. Now read the poem.....

in my life's crisis and

in times of upsets

i looked up

for your help.

but you turned me

down in the dumps.

turned your face

closed your eyes

gave me a deaf ear

to my fears and cries.

when you close your heart

when you cross your arms

when you keep me

at arm's length

how shall i gain

mental strength.

how weak i am

how strong you are.

you used me

for your comforts.

abused me

for your discomforts.

tell me dad

how to identify

a wolf in

sheep's clothing.

IS NOT WITHDRAWL OF LOVE A CRIME

PARENTAL NEGLECT
Children in general long for love and affection from their own parents; but very often it is denied. Parents have no time to sit and discuss and even share the most intimate things with their own children. When children decides to talk about their private matters they are not encouraged.In fact they are yelled and often criticised. Their privacy is broken and their self-image is shattered in front of others.

One such incident happened between the father and the son is narrated by DR.HABIBULLAH in his beautiful poem. Now just listen to the cries of this innocent child.....

your yelp and growl

puts me in doldrums.

your bark and howl

drops me in depression.

it drains my energy

squeezes my heart

takes away my pease of mind.

i desired to be the

apple of your eye

in your mind's field.

but you have made me

an apple of discard.

like a fish out of water

i gasp for breath of love.

if withdrawl of life is a crime

is not withdrawl of love a crime.

INSULTS - HURTS AND HUMILIATION

EMOTIONAL TRAUMA

Children are like flowers.They are tender, weak and fragile.They bloom and blossom with the manure of love and affection.These are like sunlight and water to the flower.When it is denied, the flower will perish.When the love is denied to the children, their emotional health is shattered and they become emotionally handicapped. When parents start accusing their own children for their very small faults, these children are prone to untold anxiety and depression. Their emotional growth is deprived and they naturally fall as victims into the hands of emotional disaster.

Parents are advised not to make crude comments on their own children.These insults, hurts and humiliation make them more inferior and they feel awkward in facing the challenging situation in

their life. The adverse comments uttered by one crude father against his very sesitive son is beautifully expressed by DR.HABIBULLAH in his picturseque emotive poem. Listen to the crying words of the little one, addressed to his perverted and unloving dad.

food, water and shelter are

the basic needs of men.

even to satiate my needs

i need to overcome

your sadistic sarcasm.

when i eat my food

did you not say

i eat like a horse.

so delicious are

your soft words.

when i drink water

did you not utter

i drink like a fish.

very tasty are

your sweet words.

when i sleep for a while

did you not shout

i sleep like a log.

more sedative are

your soothing words.

how sharp - your hurts are

do you have

a balm - to heal

my mental scars.

hard words

never inspire anyone.

sharp comments

never give serenity.

cutting remarks

never bring tranquility.

words are sharper than weapons

medicines heal- the pysical wounds

how can you heal- my mental wounds.

TOO DIFFICULT FOR THE PARENTS TO ANSWER...AND TO DIGEST.

ANGER ANXIETY AND ANGUISH

ADOLESCENTS AND CRITICISM

It is too difficult for the children and adolescents to digest negative comments and criticisms.A growing child needs care and affection from their parents and teachers;if it is denied to them they feel hurt.The are badly wounded in their heart.They may not show it outside like adults;they keep it suppressed in their subconscious mind.They exhibit their emotions outside, when they are utterly disturbed and frustrated by their close relatives, mainly their parents.But parents abuse them when they need love and affection. They are ill treated when they expect appreciation from their parents,teachers,care takers and close relatives.

The anger and the anguish these children and adolescents express unconsciously are vividly expressed by DR.HABIBULLAH in his beautiful poem.

When these children are allowed to speak naturally it is too difficult to answer them; just listen to their heart beats....

did you not toture me, when

i needed your tender love.

did you not torment me, when

i harbour for your kindness.

did you not degrade me, when

i longed for your appraisal.

did you not desert me, when

i deserved a praise.

did you not turn out to be

an intimate enemy, when

i expect your friendliness.

how could you victimise

the soul of your own son.

how could you eat

the flesh of your own blood.

WHEN SELF-ESTEEM SHATTERS

SELF ESTEEM is an esteemed possesson of a human being.A man is ready to loose his valid material possessions, not his sef-esteem.He is ready to pay any price to preserve his self-esteem.Children are more concerned with their self image and esteem.Modern day parents are not concerned about this.Parents and teachers invariably pass adverse comments on these volatile young children.They do not think about it's adverse effects and how it affect the mind of these youngsters.Children and adolescents are more vulnerable to it.Most of their genuine demands are not respected by their parents.These parents abuse their children verbally with obnoxious languages.They do not know that they are unconsciously inflicting an emotional trauma on the minds of these innocent young children.

Every day the father and the mother hurt these young children with dirty words, bad gestures and cruel comments. These children are emotionally shattered by these incidents. These youngsters are more susceptible to rage and anger.They very often burst into fits and tears.These children weep a lot for unknown reasons.

DR.HABIBULLAH narrates beautifully about the 'child's weep' in his very extraordinary poem.

The poor child expresses his fears and mental agonies with a weep to his unconcerned father.

weep has become

my constant companion

since the moment

I was born.

none knows

the emotional wounds

the inner turmoil,

you inflicted on

my young mind.

I wept, wept and wept

and my weep

turned inside and

trnsformed as 'wheeze'

Is not wheezing

an inner form of weeping.

Is not the cry

an emotional language.

Is not the weep

an emotional communication.

Is not the sob

an exchange of emotions.

Parents in general have a poor perception in reading the facial emotions expressed by their own children.They experience difficulties in recognising the moods of their youngsters.Wheezing in children and adults are mostly due to psychological than physiological, but the physiology of their body is greatly altered by their psychological condition.Wheezing in young adults are due to an abnormal emotional state rather than an abnormal physical state. Children expect love and affection from their parents.If it is denied they become abnormal in their moods and behaviour. It leads to emotional deprivation. These children are more prone to drugs and alcohol and naturally fall into the trap of depression.

WHERE WERE I - BEFORE I WAS BORN

AN UNTOLD STORY OF AN ABUSED CHILD

This is an interesting emotional tussle that happened between a father and his son.Here the son grows and becomes an adult.The character and behaviour of the son is not liked by his father.The father finds all sorts of faults in his son's activities.He scolds him, accuses him and curses him for his bad behaviour.The son was quite and very patient for a long time.He did not rise a single harsh word againt his father.But it is too much for the son to bear the emotional trauma that was inflicted on him continuously.His emotions buried deep in his sub-conscious mind gave way and comes out ferotiously to the surface of his conscious mind.Now he speaks his mind,his words are very bold,measured,enriched with meaning and substance.

DR.HABIBULLAH  has penned this extraordinary poem.He explained and discussed at length the inner emotional meaning of the poem to his very close inner circle of friends,fans and admirers at a special function organised in one of his friend's house recently.

The son is very angry with his father now.He starts asking questions one after another.He tells his father that he should not be punished for his bad behaviour.He says that his father is responsible for his bad charecter.He puts the whole blame on his father's shoulders,because he says he simply follows the foot steps of his own father. and has learnt all bad things from him only.

Now read the poem..

to err is human

to forgive is divine

judging oneside

paves the way to injustice.

justice demands

balance of two sides.

my question is

where were I

before I was born.

neither did I plan

for my birth

nor did you ask

for my conscent.

I was born without

my permission.

the moment I was born

you became my dad.

I am nothing  but

the ingredients of you

your genes and emotions.

The son's anguish and sadness reflect in his throbbing question.He is very logical in his arguments.He asks a simple question tohis father.To committ a mistake is common to every human being.Prophet Abraham committed the mistake of telling a lie.Moses murdered an egyptian.God did not punish them.But you have punished me for my small mistakes.Don't judge your side alone.If you committ the mistake of judging my faults alone you will land in trouble.To your sick eyes my mistakes are magnified.You simply forget about your blunders.If you want justice you need a balance of good mind.Unfortunately you do not possess a clarity of mind.Your judgement is always wrong.First of all you have committed the great mistake or the great blunder of giving me a birth without my conscent.I did not ask for that.I am ashamed that I am born to you without my permission and you have naturally became my father.That doesn't mean that I should act like a slave to you life long.I am nothing but your flesh,blood and bones.I am made by your basic ingrerdients mixed with your genes and emotions.I am not to be blamed for your mistakes because you are responsible for it.

                                                                                                     post to be continued tomorrow.......

DR.HABIBULLAH - A SHORT PROFILE

DR.HABIBULLAH is a highly qualified doctor specialised in pediatric medicine and psychology.In his early years as a biologist he was interested in studies concerned with plant and animal behaviour.He started his career as a pediatrician and developed an interest in the science of mind.Studies on child development,  behaviour and emotional health in children enthused him to pursue a course in psychology.His comparative studies on animal and human behaviour opens a new torrent of insight and illumiation.He dwelt deep in the inner depths of sufi mysticism and psychology that quenched his thirst in experiencing the true essence in the science and inner secrets of sufi esotericism.His analytical mind started experimenting and applying this divine science in the field of medical management of diseases.His vision was further enlightened and the puzzle of 'mind over matter' and 'meditation over medicine' found to be justified.His vast knowledge in medical science coupled with the experience in the field of clinical medicine for more than three decades helped him to synthesize the gap.

He introduced his modified,revolutionary sufi meditation, a spiritual exercise technique that revolutionised  the field of sufi psychology.His innovative techniques concentrating on the special centres of illumination and creativity paved new ways in converting, rectifying, balancing, purifying and energetising the inner mechanism of body and mind.This special mental excercises and methods have proved remarkable rewarding results in mind body purification process and helped to relieve the mental stress, strain and tension.

It is an alchemical reaction in dissolving  the covered personality and exposing  the the true individuality of the self.His system of mind healing techniques gave tremendous importance to the principle of 'holism' according to which the whole is greater than the sum of it's parts - aim to achieve a perfect mind body balance, a state where human being is in complete harmony, as an integrated physical, mental, emotional and spiritual entity - a system which brings man into harmony with himself and nature.

A number of common symptoms in children and adults like weezing asthma, seizures, eczema and temper tantrums are exhibited as an abnormal emotional state - a deep rooted emotional component buried deep in their sub concious mind, rather than abnormal physical condition.At a later date these emotions may emerge to the surface of the conscious mind and manifest itself as physical illness.It is not enough to treat the physical symptoms of the body, unless the bad emotions stored in the mind are relieved.Mind healing alone  helps to improve the physical and emotional well being of the affected children, adolescents and young adults,only then the quality of life in them will be greatly enhansed and improved. 

every child is nothing but the ingredients of their parent's genes and emotions.

a weep turned inside becomes a wheeze. wheezing is an inner form weeping.

a sob is an intimate form of communication - an exchange of affected emotion.

children are tortured when they are in need of the parent's tender love

they are tormented when they long for their affection.

children are degraded when they aspire for their parent's approval.

they are deserted when they deserve a praise.

DR.HABIBULLAH is a master in the art of mind healing.His articles on mind - body health,child health,growth,development,personality and psychology are inspiring,well read and appreciated.Hundreds of his articles appeared in almost all leading news papers,dailies,weeklies and monthly magazines.All India Radio broadcasted some of his medical programmes.He is closely connected with the high-level and apex committees of the government,social and medical organisations both national and international.He was the high - level committee member of the government nutritious meal programme for children and served as a member of the selection committee for president's national awards, ministry of social welfare.He was a member of the tamilnadu government hajj committee and the tamilnadu state wakf - board enquiry committee.

DR.HABIBULLAH is apowerful motivational speaker.Thousands of students,teachers and parents have been highly influenced and inspired by his speeches and their life style have been greatly improved.His psycho-educational programmes are inspiring,heart warming and life transforming.His emotional training workshops are innovative,informative, educative and creative.

His regular workshops on emotional management conducted in india and abroad are well atented by the senior executives of well known corporate houses like ETA-ASCON, MBM, CLIPSAL and many other well known organisations.His book on MIND TRANSPLANTATION is currently under print and yet to be published.His workshops, meditaion camps and talk shows are vivid,lively and inspiring, attracted thousands as his ardent admirers.

KIDS GLITZ AND GLAMOUR

CHILD MODELS

In recent times,newage kids are trained to become super sexy models,to suit the glitz and glamour world to attract their immeadiate adult audience.Every child has a growth and development pattern guided by the mother nature.These children are exploited to grow and develop as adult models with the tools of the kid; an appearence of truth that is false and deceptive-a form of tasteless showiness,brashness and flashiness.

With their trained traits of being rash and hasty with the appearence of strident colour complexion,costumes and glittering ornamentation in the atmosphere of gaudy sound and tastless music these innocent children are exploited to sing and dance like adult models to attract adult perverted audience who enjoy it with carnal desires,wild passion and motives.

These children are instructed to loose their weight in the gyms,eye brows shaped,faces powdered at beauty parlours,braces done with dentists to modify their smiles,noses altered and sharpened with the help of cosmetic surgeons.The psychology behind this mantra is  to look attractive and beautiful,to be like super models and film stars.These kids are told that alluring beauty and charm with sex appeal will capture the attention of the adult audience.They are asked by their tainers not only to attract but to magnetize the audience with the tricks of beauty and sex appeal and to charm them with a sweet  and pleasing smile - an attractiveness that interests,pleases and stimulates the men and encourages them, to cast a magic spell over the audience.Would it be true that the modern mothers and their immediate family members consider it pleasing,more rewarding or that they simply play the role of silent spectators, just like the common audience.

STUDENT STABS RATOHORE- A CHILD MOLESTOR

THE SENIOR S.P. SAYS,THE BOY IS
'MENTALLY UNSTABLE'

The interesting incident happened just three days back in chandigarh.The former Haryana police DGP was stabbed by a college student.He did it in a fit of anger.The man Rathore infact molested a fifteen year old young girl some twenty years back and was responsible for the death of the child.The act is probably the anger that he is feeling and nursing  in a corner of his mind,thinking that the powerful former police chief is exploiting the situation to his favour by manipulating the law and justice system.

The boy seemed to be a calm,quite and devoted student.He used to talk and discuss with his parents about the injustice,that is prevalent in the society.He is from an affluent family.His father is the professor, in the department of mechanical engineering and his mother is also a professor.

The student, Utsav sharma's name is very familiar in the minds of young students.In the schools and colleges, students very cautiously discuss about this matter.These youngsters consider him as a hero for his  courage.

Children are thinking now.They are very cautious and conscious. They know what is happening around them.The atrocities and cruelties committed by these elders are no longer allowed to carry out so easily. The elders may sleep on these matter for a long time,but the youngsters are not ready to allow it  anymore.It is the anger and rage nourished in the young mind of the the student,that suddently awakened  him and guided him to carry out the assault and violence against the disgraced former police chief. Bad elders should learn lessons from these youngsters.Whatever it be, acts of violence have no place in a civilised society because every honest, law abiding citizen have faith in the judiciary system of our country.