IN THE SCHOOL BIG BAD BOYS TRIED TO UNDRESS ME..

QUESTION

My school is a top school in the city.When my father got a transfer,he used his influence to secure a seat for me in the school.As a new comer, I experienced a lot of problems from a group of senior students.I was teased, insulted and nagged.One day a group of seniors came to my room and tried to remove my clothes and they asked me to give a pose without dress.Luckily the warden came and I was saved.I am afraid to complain it to the teacher because of their vulgar threats.I have attended your emotional management programme recently.Please help me. I am depressed and totally confused.

ANSWER

Teasing of this kind is very common in schools and colleges, eventhough there are stringent laws to punish the law breakers. Stripping of one's dress in front of others is not an insult but humiliation.As a new student, to accomodate to these sorts of insults takes some more time.You need more courage to handle this challenge.Make efforts to make some good and brave students as your friends.Tackle the issue boldly.Send a clear message to your enemies that you are not a person to be humiliated easily.As far as possible try to tackle it with your new friends.If not possible tell it to to your parents and bring the matter to the notice of school authorities.At the same time be watchful and be little bit alert.With your good behaviour you can attract them and make them as your friends.

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

A QUESTION FROM A TEENAGE STUDENT

Sir,

I have attended the training programme you have conducted in our school recently for students.

My parents are doctors, working in a government hospital.I am the only child of my parents. I am sixteen years old.Eventhough I study in a good school,I find it difficult to concentrate in my studies.I am a bit below average in exams.Parents and my teachers curse me always.I find it miserable to live in my house.I have more interest in music and dance programmes.I have more interest in keyboard.I joined a music group recently.This makes my parents more angry with me.They want me to become a doctor like them.I am confused,it is too difficul for me to study medicine and I am not prepared for it.Please help me.

ANSWER

I understand your problem.As a doctor, like your parents I can advise you to prepare yourself

to pursue a course in medicine.It needs a lot of preparation from your side.Securing high grades in final examintion is very important to get admission in a good medical college.You say that you are below average student and have more interest in music and dance.If you have real interest in music and you think that you have real talent in music you should prove this atleast to your parents and get their whole hearted support.After all, music is also a good profession like medicine.You should understand that academic intelligence has nothing to do with success in life.The ability to motivate onself,the ability to face difficulties in life,to control impulses,to control your moods and to regulate your emotions are more important to succeed in life.A high IQ is no gaurentee of wealth,power,fame or happiness in life.You are very young but your question is very intelligent.Try to convince your parents.Best of luck.

TEENAGE BEHAVIOUR

Negative emotions alters the physiology and psychology of the teenager.Depression sabotages their self image and esteem.It leads to behavioural problems and personality disorders in young children and adolescents.These children prefer to be alone.They feel tired, weak and more exhausted.They look miserable and pathetic.

They are not loved by anybody,even by their own parents.This makes them sad.They are

unhappy with their peers and environment.They become lazy and day dream a lot.They perform poorly in schools and find difficulties in concentration.These children are more aggressive and violent in their behaviour.They learn bad habits.They acquire special skills in telling lies.They cheat their friends and family members.The argue and fight a lot.They destroy other's articles,disobey their parents,argue with school teachers and fight with their fellow students.They tease others,hurt other's feelings,becoming emotional, turning very arrogant, becoming a menace to the society.

They are always angry with their parents for their negative criticism.They fall prey to drugs and alcohol.This makes them more depressed. They cry a lot in silence and burst into tears very often.Nurturing bad and negative emotions and violent behaviour for a long time leads them to severe illnesses and nervous breakdown.

TEENAGE FEELINGS

Adolescents with emotional stress and feelings cannot listen without distortion.They cannot respond with clear headedness.When their feelings are intense,their thoughts are confused.When feelings are hurt,small issues become threats.Stress disables their stability.They can't undrstand or read other's feelings.They neither impress or attract others.

Worry,fear,anger and anxiety have a damaging effect on their mental performance.They experience tension,uneasiness,headaches,body pain,sleeplessness and a host of emotional turbulance that leads to body illness leading to grave diseases.
anxiety undermines intellectual performance
fear sabotages confidence
worry interferes with clear thinking
sadness disrupts mental clarity
mental agony alters memory
bad moods disrupts and disturbs relationship
anger ends in violence
guilt lowers self esteem
jealousy leads to awkward criticism
doubt destroys trust.